Successful leaders seem to have more patience, more presence and more time. They never seem in a rush or to be OVERWHELMED by business and life. Ultimately the difference between the successful and the overwhelmed leaders is what they DO. In this ‘mini series’ I will highlight the 10 major differences between my SUCCESS clients and struggling leaders I speak to.
Read MoreIt doesn’t matter how much you have had enough of your, low energy, constant phone use or working into the evening, ADDING more actions to an overwhelmed system will always result in more overwhelm.
FORCING in the new actions you THINK will help will always result in dropping it when motivation is low or something more critical comes up.
Forcing new ACTION into an already overwhelmed schedule will NEVER create, uh... whelm.
Don’t get me wrong. ADDING in the diet, the meditation, the exercise, the yoga or what ever system it might be that promises to finally create that feeling of grounded presence and energy, are all powerful strategies.
But they are NOT the first step if you find yourself in this position, they are more like the 13th or 14th step.
I get it, if you feel like you’re living reactively and constantly being pulled out of the moment it makes total sense to add in meditation that has been proven to improve attention and focus.
Read MoreMost leaders that struggle creating a balance harmonious life aren’t struggling because they aren’t intelligent knowledge people.
They are struggling being the systems and process that they currently have in place make it impossible for them to experience the harmony they desire.
They are struggling because they DON’T have simple systems are process in place that guard and protect those things that need protecting in order to move away from overwhelm and into balance and harmony.
Something that EVERY good leader knows is that it is PROCESS that leads to SUCCESS. You don’t WILLPOWER the market to want what you have.
Yet most leaders have a process that leads to overwhelm and overwork in their business and no process for success in their energy, mental and physical health and relationships.
Read MoreYou don’t have a GREED or LAZINESS problem
It’s true, you might have a problem that manifests it’s self in excess fat storage.
It’s also true that part of the ingredients of that problem might be an overconsumption of calories for the amount you are burning from day to day.
But laziness, as in the deliberate and wilful resistance of movement is not nor never has been the problem.
Nor is the problem the deliberate drive towards overconsumption of calories to the point of discomfort at each and every meal because you want it ALL for yourself.
Read More1. I invite you to try slowing your breathing before each meal and savouring every mouthful. (Your digestive system won’t work with any other approach)
2. I would invite you to assess how much you consume from day to day. I am yet meet a person carrying excess fat who wasn’t UNDER eating to the point of other health issues coming up.
Read MoreWho I don’t work with
Over the last 16 years of working 1-2-1 with clients I have learned who tends to get the best results from working with me and who I play with best.
Without any attempt to criticise I have identified 4 traits or characteristics that tend to prevent people from getting the best possible results from my programmes.
Read MoreThere’s the peers path, this one seems safe and familiar. It’s full of the me too’s of shared experience. But often me too’s are of shared suffering of disconnected relationships, illness, back pain and what’s wrong with people who don’t think like us.
There’s the praise path, this path is often intoxicating as first we acted and got applause. Now we act for the applause and find ourselves pandering to it. It controls our choices and so direction. We are blown where ever the wind takes us and physically suffer, first only when the applause is silent then always as we see the difference between acceptance and entertainment.
Read Morehere is this really funny thing that happens when someone does their first triathlon.
They take their time to make sure they are well prepared.
They relentlessly practise their swimming, their cycling and running to the degree where they are MORE than competent at each.
Yet something quite unexpected happens.
Their recorded time is often DOUBLE what they expected.
The equation in their head during preparation was,
Swim + Cycle + run = triathlon
The reality, any hardened triathlete will tell you, is VERY different.
There are a million different ingredients that are hard to list even if you have experienced them.
Tasks so small as to seem irrelevant.
Like putting socks on with wet feet or trainers on to once wet now sweaty swollen feet to start the run.
Read MoreIt notices hormonal, postural, tonal and pitch changes in others and then changes how we feel in order to guide us towards making decisions that might save ours or even our children’s lives all without us being consciously aware of it.
Again, I won’t go into detail here but the important question I think is,
Is it more likely that this incredible piece of equipment is broken in some way, that we somehow have to contend with a lazy, demotivated, angry, shy, anxious, overwhelmed, depressed or stressed model?
Read MoreThere have long been stories from practitioners working in mental health clinics of anxious or depressed people carrying a particular sweet odour.
Sometimes it’s easy to forget we are animals.
Our senses are constantly on high alert for changes in the environment.
Detecting a subtle rise in testosterone in the group (smell) you are in could be the difference between a good and bad night today, years ago it might have saved a life or two I can imagine.
Read MoreRead the same book again. All learning is associative. This means if your intent is to integrate the knowledge in the book you’re reading into your life then your best bet is to read it again.
To make notes.
To re-read those notes and to tell a bunch of people about it.
Someone else might read 3 books in the time you read your book.
Read MoreI’m fat so I’ll act like I think a fat person would.
I’m a loser so I’ll act like a loser would.
We enter into a never ending spiral of self hatred or something.
Really what we’re looking at is a flaw in the English language.
We can’t actually BE any of those things.
Read MoreCamp one is, I am, in this moment at least, an idiot and I don’t even know it. I’ve lost all perspective. I know from experience that this is a dangerous place to be. Largely because you, at the time, have no idea it’s you.
The receiver here would benefit from choosing not to be offended but rather should focus on having sympathy for someone looking for a much needed ego boost.
Try “interesting ideas John, I’ll certainly keep that in mind”.
Read MoreThey used to freak me out too cos I had this idea that I needed to know the steps to get there even if they didn’t.
Now I look forward to hearing what they say because it’s just so blood inspiring to watch.
But the myth that comes with the idea of achieving the dream is that we have to do something radical, that’s what stops them including it too.
Read MoreWhen we extract the lessons the memory shrinks and at the same time we become more whole in the present and better equipped to succeed at the same challenge.
Often my clients will produce exact steps of how to go about failing at the very challenge they have come to me for help with. With that comes the confident of success in the present.
Thought that might be a cool thing to know. I have found it seriously useful and often I’ll notice that I’m noticeably more relaxed from day to day.
It’s dangerous because when we don’t create our own answers we adopt those of the people we interact with and that will determine what we see and that will determine what we experience.
It’s the day to day questions to which we need answers we both believe and that support the life we desire.
HELL is the inevitable result of a failure to decide what you think and the whole world is set up to tell you what to think.
Read MoreChristina made this off hand comment to me while were skiing in France over Christmas
We were having that, are you going to make any New Years resolution conversation.
It sort of means, what would make next year better than this year when you think about it and I like that.
I had decided that I wanted to start growing my business in Denmark rather than just the Uk and I was unsure how I wanted to do it.
Read MoreI could say what I want to say to my boss or my employees without fear of what they might think.
I could dance like nobody was watching and single like nobody is listening.
And a million other things.
Some even hold it up like a badge or a flag they climbed up a mountain to plant.
“ I don’t care what anyone thinks!”
Read MoreThe members and clientele were people I had created personal relationships with many of them for years before. Recently though a mass of members had joined that treated the place and people in it disrespectfully. I couldn’t see a way out, I felt like it was going to be a long journey what ever plan I created.
There is no such thing as a quick fix though right? Anything worth having takes time... right?
WRONG
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