2. You’re using hierarchy to move people.
You have become so wrapped up in urgency that you are crossing the boundaries into telling people what to do or doing things for them. This serves to make them think that they are useless and that you think you are better than them. Driving stress, poor culture, quiet quitting and high staff churn
3. You have become reliant upon short term negative consequences to cause you to act
Read MoreGuilt often seems to be the thing we’re talking about when we say work life balance
When we are at home we should be at work when at work we should be at home and that’s without considering fitness and friends.
Sometimes it seems like a pursuit of being good enough. Avoiding too much conflict or criticism.
Like we live to make other people happy.
Read More60% of first time CEOs report loneliness to the degree that it negatively impact performance.
Not surprisingly really
When polled public speaking comes out as # 1 of peoples greatest fears. That is to say, it ranks HIGHER than fear of death.
The Anterior Cingulate Cortex in the brain is on constant high alert to public failure and in particular INDIVIDUAL public failure.
Which is a thought that can make someone feel pretty alone and under the spot light.
Read MoreMore than anything else your energy is contagious.
Enthusiasm and passion are great and I’ve seen leaders carry themselves on it for incredible lengths of time.
But wired energy, nervous energy, hyper vigilant energy, afternoon energy slumps and home energy crashes take their toll on your health, ability to focus, and your significant relationships while also setting the tone for the type of energy running through the business.
The best part is, that these changes don’t require massive investments in time and energy outside of what you’re already committing to.
They just require a change in habit. The reward will be more energy, more focus, more clarity, more calm and more presence.
The potential of where those things will take you and your business are impossible to measure and limited only by your imagination
Read MoreThese 9 things aren’t easy. They usually come as a set. If you can’t imagine doing one it’s probably because another one is not already in place that is making it seem impossible.
But if you want to be the calm, consistent and stable leader to your team you must operate yourself in a way that creates than calmness, consistency and clarity inside of you. You cannot fake it. The body, your words and your actions give off too many clues. You are the indicator that your team responds to. They will only change when you do.
Are you ready to start spreading calmness and clarity?
Or perhaps a better question, how much longer are you willing
Read MoreI should be helping more at home, I should be helping my team, I should be connecting with the customers and keeping them happy, the show ends if I don’t keep the board happy, I’m getting fat, unhealthy and my sleep is suffering I should be doing more for my health!
The first step I have my clients take is to let go of the should, the must, the have to, even if just for a while.
Focusing on what’s not being done only grows the feeling of hopelessness which grows that feeling of overwhelm and exhaustion.
Read MoreWell I say must, it’s more if you want to be happy and health and have a fun life.
Answering these questions will REALLY help.
I am yet to meet a good leader who recommends chancing or hoping their way to success.
They want a predictable and repeatable process for success so that they can better predict the future while ensuring that things move smoothly in the present.
Often though I find that there are clear systems for the business but there are rarely clear system for maintain themselves as well as some of the most challenging human aspects of business and life.
This means that business often becomes the safe haven FROM life.
Those leaders who manage these things MOST skilfully have a clear answer for each of the following questions.
Read MoreThe brain is a survival machine that creates survival mechanisms to protect itself.
Many of these protection mechanisms can inadvertently cause problems inside an organisation.
The leaders must master these 8 skills to not be taken over by these mechanisms.
That is in part, what it means to lead.
To own your own emotions and behaviours in response to what is happening around you.
Which of these 8 do you most need to place your attention on?
Read MoreMy clients love this way of thinking about stress because it moves it from the abstract feeling that needs ‘managing’ to something concrete that’s both normal, not ‘bad’ and most importantly actually provides huge growth for you and the business when faced skilfully.
So putting my neuroscience hat on for a moment stress is one of two things;
It’s a lack of prediction and response in the current environment.
or
2. It’s an unskillful prediction and response in the current environment.
Read MoreIt all started with a dream. For some that dream began at 6 years old, for others it didn’t come until college. That entrepreneurial itch. They were going to create something amazing in the world. They were going to break free from the world that was trying to define them and discover who they really are. They were going to show the world what they can do when they have the freedom to invent themselves.
It’s what Steven Pressfield calls, the hero’s journey. It’s a journey filled often with hard work, struggle, and failure as well as a whole lot of fun, fulfilment and adventure.
You’re supposed to be yourself and say what you think which is the extreme opposite of the old advice, ‘fake it til you make it’.
I speak to leaders all the time who say words to the effect of,
“I know I know my stuff, I know I know my business, why can’t I shake this impostor feeling?”
Whether you’re building to sell or building for profit or BOTH suffering your way to success is a process that has a lot of victims. You SUFFER because when you’re living a life you loath you experience the EXACT life you didn’t want for yourself along with your health, energy, mood, and relationships all suffering.
Your loved ones suffer as they get the worse of you as they get the tail end of your energy, the worst of your mood, the guilt of your suffering for them and the least of your time. Even your colleagues and the business suffer as the energy, enthusiasm and inspiration required to both operate and sell a business can’t be faked for long.
Read MoreDo you find yourself making things up on the fly trying to sound like you know what you’re taking about even when you aren’t sure?
Do you find yourself avoiding new approaches even when the current approach isn’t working so well?
Do you feel like you always have to be the smartest in the room?
Do you hate having your ideas challenged?
Read MoreI absolutely LOVE working with leaders who are inspired to build something amazing while also uniting a group of people behind that cause. The truth is that they are highly competent individuals BUT in MOST cases the skills that got them to where they are are the exact same skills that are causing their struggles in health, energy, communication and relationship.
Through my REINVENTION programme I support them to adopt the skills of understanding and embracing their brain to use it more to their advantage. Using prediction and response to create calm in themselves and others and using curiosity to give themselves and others the clarity they need to become autonomous and happy.
Read MoreEventually every leader realises that you can have all the success in the world. But if you don’t have good quality time and energy left to spend with the people you love then it’s all for nothing. But when it was HUSTLE and HARD WORK that got you where you are it can be hard to believe there is any other way. Yet believe you MUST if you are to start taking steps towards creating it.
Read MoreBusiness leaders tend to wear ‘hard work’ as a badge of honour. Arriving first, leaving last and then continuing to work into the evening often stay up til midnight and beyond.
They do this despite the fact that they aren’t being paid to work hard. They are being paid to keep the business in high performance mode and the best way to do that is to keep themselves in high performance mode. A tired and overwhelmed leader will soon start making decisions based on their own limited bandwidth and will quickly create a tired and overwhelm business. I help my clients to find and protect their own high performance mode so that they can better support the business to locate and maintain high performance mode.
Successful leaders seem to have more patience, more presence and more time. They never seem in a rush or to be OVERWHELMED by business and life. Ultimately the difference between the successful and the overwhelmed leaders is what they DO. In this ‘mini series’ I will highlight the 10 major differences between my SUCCESS clients and struggling leaders I speak to.
Read MoreMost leaders that struggle creating a balance harmonious life aren’t struggling because they aren’t intelligent knowledge people.
They are struggling being the systems and process that they currently have in place make it impossible for them to experience the harmony they desire.
They are struggling because they DON’T have simple systems are process in place that guard and protect those things that need protecting in order to move away from overwhelm and into balance and harmony.
Something that EVERY good leader knows is that it is PROCESS that leads to SUCCESS. You don’t WILLPOWER the market to want what you have.
Yet most leaders have a process that leads to overwhelm and overwork in their business and no process for success in their energy, mental and physical health and relationships.
Read MoreYou don’t have a GREED or LAZINESS problem
It’s true, you might have a problem that manifests it’s self in excess fat storage.
It’s also true that part of the ingredients of that problem might be an overconsumption of calories for the amount you are burning from day to day.
But laziness, as in the deliberate and wilful resistance of movement is not nor never has been the problem.
Nor is the problem the deliberate drive towards overconsumption of calories to the point of discomfort at each and every meal because you want it ALL for yourself.
Read MoreWho I don’t work with
Over the last 16 years of working 1-2-1 with clients I have learned who tends to get the best results from working with me and who I play with best.
Without any attempt to criticise I have identified 4 traits or characteristics that tend to prevent people from getting the best possible results from my programmes.
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