Successful leaders seem to have more patience, more presence and more time. They never seem in a rush or to be OVERWHELMED by business and life. Ultimately the difference between the successful and the overwhelmed leaders is what they DO. In this ‘mini series’ I will highlight the 10 major differences between my SUCCESS clients and struggling leaders I speak to.
Read MoreIt doesn’t matter how much you have had enough of your, low energy, constant phone use or working into the evening, ADDING more actions to an overwhelmed system will always result in more overwhelm.
FORCING in the new actions you THINK will help will always result in dropping it when motivation is low or something more critical comes up.
Forcing new ACTION into an already overwhelmed schedule will NEVER create, uh... whelm.
Don’t get me wrong. ADDING in the diet, the meditation, the exercise, the yoga or what ever system it might be that promises to finally create that feeling of grounded presence and energy, are all powerful strategies.
But they are NOT the first step if you find yourself in this position, they are more like the 13th or 14th step.
I get it, if you feel like you’re living reactively and constantly being pulled out of the moment it makes total sense to add in meditation that has been proven to improve attention and focus.
Read MoreMost leaders that struggle creating a balance harmonious life aren’t struggling because they aren’t intelligent knowledge people.
They are struggling being the systems and process that they currently have in place make it impossible for them to experience the harmony they desire.
They are struggling because they DON’T have simple systems are process in place that guard and protect those things that need protecting in order to move away from overwhelm and into balance and harmony.
Something that EVERY good leader knows is that it is PROCESS that leads to SUCCESS. You don’t WILLPOWER the market to want what you have.
Yet most leaders have a process that leads to overwhelm and overwork in their business and no process for success in their energy, mental and physical health and relationships.
Read MoreThere have long been stories from practitioners working in mental health clinics of anxious or depressed people carrying a particular sweet odour.
Sometimes it’s easy to forget we are animals.
Our senses are constantly on high alert for changes in the environment.
Detecting a subtle rise in testosterone in the group (smell) you are in could be the difference between a good and bad night today, years ago it might have saved a life or two I can imagine.
Read MoreCamp one is, I am, in this moment at least, an idiot and I don’t even know it. I’ve lost all perspective. I know from experience that this is a dangerous place to be. Largely because you, at the time, have no idea it’s you.
The receiver here would benefit from choosing not to be offended but rather should focus on having sympathy for someone looking for a much needed ego boost.
Try “interesting ideas John, I’ll certainly keep that in mind”.
Read MoreThey used to freak me out too cos I had this idea that I needed to know the steps to get there even if they didn’t.
Now I look forward to hearing what they say because it’s just so blood inspiring to watch.
But the myth that comes with the idea of achieving the dream is that we have to do something radical, that’s what stops them including it too.
Read MoreChristina made this off hand comment to me while were skiing in France over Christmas
We were having that, are you going to make any New Years resolution conversation.
It sort of means, what would make next year better than this year when you think about it and I like that.
I had decided that I wanted to start growing my business in Denmark rather than just the Uk and I was unsure how I wanted to do it.
Read MoreI could say what I want to say to my boss or my employees without fear of what they might think.
I could dance like nobody was watching and single like nobody is listening.
And a million other things.
Some even hold it up like a badge or a flag they climbed up a mountain to plant.
“ I don’t care what anyone thinks!”
Read MoreLocation guilt seems to be the thing we’re talking about when we say work life balance
When we are at home we should be at work when at work we should be at home and that’s without throwing fitness and friends into the mix.
We end up only seeing friends that fit the formula and doing exercise that does too.
It can be like a constant battle for good enough or avoiding too many arguments or criticism.
Read MoreThe world is falling apart, what do you think will happen?
Seems to be the question so many people are asking, chaos seems to be looming and our instinct is to reach to find any form of certainty even if by guessing at the worst possible outcome.
Okay, first and foremost I am not making light here. I’m not suggesting that I am happy about what has happened. Neither am I suggesting that no businesses have fallen victim to the current or future side effects or what’s happening at the moment.
However, there were 5 things that were important before this that have now significantly increased in importance and that I believe is a good thing.
In fact they were ALWAYS the most important things but now and going forward their consequences will result in more rapid and undesirable feedback.
Read MoreEverything I had worked for over the previous 5 years was ripped away from me.
Half because Something I thought was stable turn out to be built on quick sand. I was so angry with the builder...
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