How to create a safe haven

So I went to register so I can live and work here in Denmark. 

A 10 page form that is no mean feat to get hold of online. 

They translated all but the website address but only on audio. I spent nearly an hour trying to decipher the code. 

I was like Alan Turing. 

So I took my forms in. 

"On what grounds would you like to petition to stay sir?" Said the lady at the desk. 

"Ummm... EU law?" 

^^^^^ I'll miss that when it's gone, cheers Brexit.

"Yes sir, but on what grounds, work, sufficient funds...?" 

"No job, not registered as self employed yet... I'll take sufficient funds please." 

"Can you prove you have the money?" 

"Now? No, I'll come back... actually, what other grounds can I stay under?" 

"Danish spouse" 

"Oh, I'll take that one please... WIFE" 

"You'll need to apply for another 10 page form and have to pass a test...". 

"Oh" 

Long story short. 

I'm registered in Denmark, as a kept man. 

Which is nice. 

Change is inherently threatening.

When we can't predict what will happen next and we don't know how we will respond it's natural to feel
a little scared, 
uncomfortable, 
on edge. 

If you're going through upheaval or stress then filling your day with safety is a great way to create mental balance. 

If you don't do it deliberately your brain will likely take the decision out of your hands. 

This is essential what comfort eating and drinking or smoking etc is. 

Your brain seeking comfort. 

Deliberate comfort though, chosen comfort, less harmful comfort, is a smart move. 

If threat is lack of predict and response 

Then safety is extreme prediction and response

Your favourite music
Your favourite films
Your favourite TV programmes
Your favourite book
Your favourite food
Your favourite coffee 

They all make your brain go... 

Ahhhh

and 

Safety leads to exploration
Exploration lead to understanding
Understanding leads to new belief
New belief leads to new action 

So I'm watching friends 

Which is great. 

Ed Ley