The inconvenient truth

There is a large part of growing up that is all about learning to get on with people. Learning to resolve our own conflicts. Understanding different view points and belief systems. 

Discovering that we don't have to agree with everyone but getting along is a much better way to live than the alternative. 

So, now grown ups, we get along, we water ourselves down. We have different sides of us. Different levels of usness that we share with people. It's so easy to make clients and acquaintances of the people that are THERE, after all, we can get on with anyone. We do this with everyone but for a few... 

I've been asked about what and who I will miss and to tell you the truth I think thats a hard question to answer until you've been through it. 

There is a guy named Chris Sacca who not long ago was a VC chasing around Silicon Valley with all the other VC's trying to do the best deals. 

He then turned on his heels and moved hundreds of miles away. The plan to make people come to him seemed like a risky one, after all his income was related to the number of business he could speak to. 

Now with a net worth of $1.2 billion his strategy to invite people to come to him and spend real quality time together seems like a logical one. Interaction is common, connection is rare and if we are to invest in connection we have to sacrifice constant interaction in order to do so. 

I see a lot of people day to day but those people I spend the most quality time with now are those that overcome inconvenience in order to do so. 

The story I've been telling people, the story that I believe to be true and I will make every effort to make true is that I will see people more rather than less once I've moved. 

The phrase that gets used here is work life balance. I think for many that's a dead phrase. 

My best clients, my best friends, my best interactions and conversations are the things I most enjoy, most learn from, most discover about myself. They are all work, all play, all growth. 

We aren't moving for work life balance, we are moving for adventure and a huge part of that is removing the mundane, the 'I don't have time to chat now' the life admin that has us half or quarter giving of ourselves to others in a never ending quest to be productive in the moment as well what ever that means. 

It used to be the goal, now its more of a sign that some outsourcing is long overdue. The treadmill is dead, the future is creativity and connection. 

That's my bet anyway, 

So who will I miss, I hope, nobody. 

Life of course isn't always like that but it's absolutely never like that unless you make a move to make it so. 

Ed Ley